At one time or another, we have all felt emotionally unstable. And more often than not those around us seem to have it completely together which in turn makes us feel even more emotionally unstable.
So what can we do to break this cycle and start to feel in control of our own emotions?
Well, firstly it is key to acknowledge that your mental habits will actually determine how emotional or how “extreme” your emotional reaction will be towards a certain topic.
Luckily, with the aid of a Life Coach and applying some of these steps, you can begin to adjust your habits and gain some more emotional stability.
Step 1: Stop believing everything you think.
Thoughts are powerful and can overwhelm us. Most of the time we stress ourselves out with dreams of what could be, or potential issues that could arise. However, these things have not actually happened. Just because you imagine them or believe them, doesn’t make it true. Your thoughts are not always helpful and relying on them too much will only lead to more emotional distress.
Step 2: Don’t be hard on yourself for having feelings.
Now, although step 1 was to not always listen to all of your thoughts or believe them to be true, it does still happen. Don’t take step 1 to an extreme and start ignoring your feelings. It is normal and healthy to feel stressed, or angry or sad. Ignoring these feelings will only make them fester and reemerge stronger than ever. Allow yourself to feel, but take care to not get carried away.
Step 3: Stop trying to find meaning in everything.
Many of us want to find reasons for things. After all, most of human nature feels uncomfortable with uncertainty. There is nothing wrong with that. However, there is an important balance to find here as well. Sometimes an action, event, phrase etc. is simply that and nothing more. Wasting energy on trying to apply meaning to things is not only draining but unhealthy. Healthy people are more comfortable with uncertainty as much of life is. The more you can do to feel comfortable and not analyze everything the better off you will be.
Step 4: Don’t make decisions in an emotional state.
Making decisions when you are feeling a rush of emotions is a huge mistake. During those times our minds are not clear, we are not rationally thinking, and the outcome will most likely not be what we desire. Give yourself some time to achieve clarity and then react. Not only will it affect the outcome of things, but it will also allow you to feel more in control instead of making rash decisions all the time.
These are just a few steps to get you started on your journey to finding a little more emotional stability. However, you can always book a session with a life coach to learn more about what else you can do to find a little more mental grounding.